The Essence of Embodiment

Question Received through Email from Chloe

Hey Scott, I’m hoping you can help me. About two years ago, I experienced what so many teachers write about. It was a real shift in identity – from ego mind to awareness. Very liberating. What a difference that made. That has stuck with me thankfully. I just don’t identify with thoughts anymore – or most of them. The issue is that I’m still addicted to certain things and I can’t seem to let them go. Also, my body doesn’t seem to have gotten on board with the awakening. There are days when I feel almost depressed, although there aren’t a lot of thoughts around it. It’s when I check into my body that I feel that something is there that keeps me from really experiencing true joy and peace. The whole idea of seeking enlightenment has vanished. So nothing drives me to even work on this, whatever it is. Instead I feel stuck in a place that seems half-baked, yet there is no motivation to go to teacher talks or watch videos because I already “got” what they are offering. Can you help?

Answer from Scott

Hi Chloe. Your email is why I shifted my teaching several years ago. Many people on earth are experiencing what I call a head awakening, which is really only the beginning. As I define it, a head awakening is when something shifts one out of identification with the thinking mind into an identification with awareness. You’re right, this is profoundly life-changing. Yet it is only the beginning. The body residually stores a lifetime of blockages, contractions, trauma etc. Essentially one’s mind feels light, while the body feels dense still.

Density v. Lightness is a good way to talk about what happens post-awakening. A head awakening brings a lightness to the head area, even a sense of vastness, while the body still holds what it holds and can feel rather dense. Sometimes, when people have a head awakening, they think they are done. This is because the head awakening, at first, makes it seem as if even the body is light. It takes a while for the density of the body to reveal itself. It all eventually comes to the surface. Your email joins literally hundred and hundreds of emails I’ve received over the years from people complaining that after an initial awakening, they are still dealing with some form of addiction, anxiety, depression, trauma, etc. The bad news is that you are not done. Yes, the seeking is done. Yes, you are living in the now. But the embodiment process will now happen as a result of that head awakening, with or without your consent. Embodiment is a process that happens over time, that unfolds within the context of the present moment awareness that you are now experiencing as foundational after the initial awakening. In that way, Embodiment is not about seeking at all. It’s about bringing what has been realized through the head awakening all the way down into the entire body.

Most – not all – teachings are fairly silent on embodiment. This is because the notion of not being done runs counter to what those teachings say publicly (which is that a head awakening is the final stage) and the teachings have created no context to help people with the embodiment process. If those teachings have created a context, the teachers often deliver the information one on one to students, when they need it. So there is not a lot of public information on this topic. I have written and shared a lot publicly on this topic because, at the Kiloby Center, embodiment is a central issue. When people are addicted, embodiment has to be primary or else their bodies continue to scream for relief through addictive substances and activities, much like you are experiencing.

Before I share with you the skills that can accelerate the process of embodiment, I want to tell you about readiness. Readiness is the motivation to continue to employ practices that will help. The tricky thing is that, once the seeking has died down through a head awakening, some people find very little motivation or readiness to do any practices to accelerate the process of embodiment. And this is their choice entirely. But most people after a head awakening continue to suffer in some way. For example, they continue to be addicted to certain things, continue to feel somewhat depressed or anxious or continue to experience resurfaced trauma. They just are not truly joyous and free in every sense. Yet the motivation to use these skills isn’t there either. So they are kind of stuck. In the end, many people who aren’t ready actually become ready when the suffering at the body level gets too much. Suffering is a great motivator.

When I experienced the head awakening, I also thought I was done. But my body was not. I spent a few years dealing with blockages and contractions that were painful and that really clouded my view. As the blockages and contractions began to dissolve, it was (and still is) as if the body is totally transparent. There is a lightness now throughout the whole body. And that’s not awakening, that’s liberation – a totally different thing. Trust me, there will always be this sense that something is missing in your experience until the body is THAT clear.

Without going into great detail around the skills we have developed at the Kiloby Center to accelerate the embodiment process, which would require much more than I can write in this email, I will simply point you to my blogs on embodiment and contractions on the “resources” tab at More importantly, visit the Scholarship Program Signup page under that same “resources” tab on that site. Once you sign up, you will have access to many audios from the Kiloby Center that contain the best skills we have discovered to help in this process. See the category “Self-Support Phase 2” to learn and practice those skills. Perhaps the best advice I have for you is to either come to work with us at the Kiloby Center or work with one of my facilitators online at

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Dan has worked one-on-one with clients in and out of the Kiloby Center since 2017 and has an unconditionally loving and earnest approach to healing trauma, dissolving the drivers of addiction/suffering and unhooking long-held toxic beliefs about ourselves, others and the world at large. 

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For most of my life I’ve wondered who I am and why I am here. As I was growing up, no one else seemed to be talking about these things, or even thinking about them, so I buried it deep inside and tried my best to fit in the way I was “supposed” to, all the while feeling like there was something desperately wrong with me and that I needed to fix it.

In my early thirties, the death of a young relative left me feeling hopeless and helpless, wondering what is the point of life if we’re all just going to die anyway? This launched me on a search. I didn’t even know what I was looking for, I just knew that there was a longing – a desperate longing for something that actually made sense about life. I learned several alternative spiritual and healing techniques. I meditated. I read books and watched videos. I eventually learned of non-duality teachings, and I read more books, watched more videos, and even sat with several ‘awakened’ teachers. Yet I was still searching, something still felt missing. I was looking for the key that would unlock the mystery of me and of life.

In my early forties, I developed a chronic health condition that left me unable to work for several years, and most days barely able to get out of bed due to extreme fatigue, brain fog and pain. I lost my banking job, and eventually lost my home. I saw a multitude of doctors to try to find out what was wrong with me, and used every tool in my metaphysical and alternative medicine toolkit to try to heal myself. My seeking became even more intense, and I was looking for a way to escape my pain.

In 2009, I met Scott Kiloby. Since I started working with him and doing the Living Inquiries, the seeking for enlightenment has stopped, and the question of ‘who am I’ is no longer relevant. My victim stories around my health started falling away. Once I started looking at my experience through inquiry, everything changed. I stopped chasing something ‘out there.’ I no longer seek some future state of happiness or peace. This is not to say that I don’t have problems, or ever experience pain. Quite the contrary. I still use the inquiries regularly, and now there is much less avoidance or resistance to what I’m experiencing. I experience more and more freedom in the present moment, exactly as it appears.

Having trained with Scott, I was one of the first to be certified as a Senior Living Inquiries Facilitator and Trainer in early 2012. In 2014, I moved to CA and became a business partner with Scott at The Kiloby Center for Recovery, where we worked with people suffering from addiction, anxiety, depression and more for the next 8 years.

I can’t imagine my life without these inquiries. They saved me from myself. If you are still suffering, searching, longing… I encourage you to give this a try.

As a young child I saw a picture of Jesus gazing lovingly at some children around his feet. I immediately longed for the unconditional love I saw in his gaze. At the same time, I was being read fairy tales, like Cinderella, and came to believe that romantic love would satisfy that longing for love.

So, I married my handsome prince at age 19. But then, by age 29, I found myself alone, as a single mother, with four young children. I was devastated and convinced that something was terribly wrong with me, to have ended up in such a predicament. 

I had learned to love and please others, but not how to love and respect myself. I was a “good girl,” and repressed my urges to have my own needs acknowledged and met. A wise teacher later told me, “We need to love everyone, including ourselves.” This was an amazing revelation for me!

Learning to meditate helped immensely to bring moments of peace, while I was sitting still, though I was still being triggered regularly in my relationships. Finally, the Kiloby Inquiries taught me how to turn my attention inside in daily life – towards the trapped thoughts and emotions I’d been running from – so that I could face and release them. It was like some tender, lost children began coming home, to take their rightful place in my inner world. 

I am honored and excited to be able to facilitate these wonderful inquiries for others.

Sumitra lives in Eugene, Oregon, US.  She has four grown children and six grandchildren. For many years she lived and worked in a yoga retreat community in California, and has taught yoga, meditation and Compassionate Communication in addition to facilitating the tools of the Kiloby Inquiries (since 2013).

Working with compulsions – especially regarding food – is a special interest for Sumitra. 

She also loves working with couples and others with relationship challenges in a simple deep listening practice that allows each person to be truly heard and acknowledged.

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I am a non bypassing non-dual teacher with 13 years of direct experience. Waking up and abiding in our true nature was not enough. Some unconscious repressed fear was debilitating my expression for years. Stepping into the power of my voice fully was only possible with KI. In 2020 signing up to KI training with Scott and Dan changed the trajectory and the quality of my life and work. I released loads of repressed shame and anger from my system and now am able to let live manifest and express effortlessly. And I know you can live and be the fullest free expression of YOU!


I am so passionate about this method of deprograming & embodiment that I am here to inspire others to experience it for themselves. These tools and my perseverance in experimenting with them brought effortlessness, ease in the unknown, financial abundance, freedom of expression, burst of creativity and such a fulfilling work environment, where everyone is honoring integrity, authenticity and inner deepening. I’ve learned so much from all my fellow trainees and clients, it’s been such a privilege to hold space and witness their growth and transformation. I’ve been training in KI with Scott and on my own since 2021 and now so excited to train all dimensions training for full immersion in this work. 


I have experience working with: parents and children, childhood trauma, repression of voice/power/expression, non-dual bypassing, spiritual seeking, emotional repression, addiction, chronic pain, abuse, sexual abuse, sexual repression, depression, PTSD, birth trauma mother and baby, grief and loss, couples counseling, lack and scarcity mindset. 


I can help you move beyond suffering and fear into the world more fully with your gifts, authenticity and uniqueness recognizing your unbroken, true nature. 

Alec Rodrigues has been certified to facilitate inquiry since 2015 and brings a keen sense of intuition to his work. He believes that in connection, the deepest healing takes place, that the mirror of relationship is the best crucible for transformation. Through rest and inquiry, Alec has found the empowerment to meet others authentically and stop running so damn fast from the seeming “ordinariness” of life.

He currently lives in Washington state with his girlfriend and works as a training assistant for the KI Personal Mentorship Program, where he empowers enrollees by teaching them the KI tools.