We create suffering by not being able to feel and express emotion (emotional repression).
If someone else expresses emotion, that’s a trigger for the one who is unable to feel and express.
It’s safer to point to the unconsciousness of someone else than it is to open to the emotion buried within us that we don’t want to feel and express.
The expression of anger, hurt, fear or sadness (even intense expression) is not in and of itself unconsciousness. But when we vilify emotion in spirituality, it can look like someone who is experiencing emotion that way is automatically unconscious or even broken. That’s repression with a shadow.
This is when we will point to other people’s reactions or triggers instead of what created the suffering. It’s a deflection that can feel like gaslighting.
We create suffering by not being able to feel and express emotion.
Do you see the trap here?
A hell of a lot of suffering goes away when we get to the root of this cycle and a hell of a lot of suffering continues when we focus on the reactions of others, instead of how we produce or contribute to suffering by not being able to feel and express our emotions authentically.
And all the focus on processing triggers in spirituality can be misplaced if we are simply not getting to the root of how these triggers are created in the first place, and instead are focused on just getting them to go away when they do arise
Answer: go to the root each time. Repression.
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