Here are the steps and process of ‘Natural Recovery from Suffering’.
1. I’m suffering in some way. Maybe it’s what clinicians call depression, anxiety, addiction, codependency, chronic pain or any number of other mental health diagnoses.
2. Through inquiry, I find the belief or identity driving my current suffering like “I have to doubt myself”, “I’m powerless”, “Everyone hates me”, “I’ll never get out of this”, “I’m depressed / codependent / an addict” etc
3. I take these beliefs further into inquiry and find a way to link the belief / identity to the unconscious repression and buried emotions in my body and skillfully make this conscious which leads to an energetic release / shift.
After that there may be more space / freedom for a bit and / or things may close back up again because whatever is left of the repression programming sinks back down again into the unconscious and starts running again which of course leads us back to step one – suffering.
When step three happens – we sometimes call this ‘whiplash’ or ‘backlash’ I don’t get too discouraged – I recognize that it’s just my repression programming reasserting itself and trying to come back in and “save the day” – after all, its main strategy has always been to keep me safe and get me love.
Instead, I learn to anticipate and consciously doubt the suffering of my whiplash / backlash and landings (instead of believing them and doubting myself) and then work with them again repeating steps one and two.
Eventually, if I’m earnest and becoming increasingly skillful, the whiplash, backlash, identities, landings and resultant suffering start to lessen in believability, intensity and frequency because I’m actually using it / them to clear the repression and repressed emotions that kept them locked in place and feeling true for so long.
This practice of rising up into consciousness and sinking back down into unconsciousness the drivers of suffering is just how things will go for awhile when it comes to deprogramming and reversing emotional repression / identification.
We can lessen the ‘gap’ (where the mind seeks safety through landing and suffering) by consistent self-work supported by the occasional session with someone else, if need be.
I get into the habit of doubting my suffering – which means doubting my beliefs, identities and landings that arise when I’m suffering – EVEN if it / they feel 100% true (which it / they usually do) – and as best I can I try to remember that the suffering state is my system’s attempt to keep me safe and get me love even when I’m in the grip of it and it doesn’t make sense.
Basically I utilize my suffering to ultimately get free of it.
I begin to recognize that the fact that when I’m oscillating between clarity and confusion, feeling sane and crazy, self-trust and self-doubt while doing KI, I’m on the right track.
So I keep on repeating steps one through three as necessary.
This is ‘Natural Recovery from Suffering’ .