There is nothing spiritual about the sense of separation. It’s simply a survival instinct in our body-mind trying to protect us from hurt and to feel safe.
I often hear about the ‘ultimate sense of separation’ and ‘oneness’ in the spiritual field. To me, that is simply an unconscious bypass to try to deal with it. There is nothing spiritual, holy, or ultimate about the sense of separation or the eternal oneness once the sense of separation has dissolved. It’s bullshit for me. 🤷♀️
It comes from a lack of knowledge, understanding, or experience about how somatic self-repression works via childhood trauma programming (and because of the unhealthy relationship we might have had with our parents).
When we were children and couldn’t deal with what was happening between us and our mum/dad and couldn’t handle the emotions that it brought up for us, we started to feel separated. Feeling separated from our parents was painful and unbearable; we felt hurt, and we suffered a lot because of this. Too much to bear for a small mind… 😳
But the story doesn’t end here; the separation didn’t just happen to us. If the story/your understanding ends here for you, it means you don’t fully understand how the somatic body-mind works because you haven’t gone deep enough yet. (And you also give your power away by not going deeper, by the way.) 😐
Because when our parents hurt us in some way and we felt the fear that made us freeze in the situation, this fear literally tried to separate us from our parents to feel separated aka safe. If we really go deep down to the root of this fear with skillful inquiry and “slow down the scenario” and observe what was happening inside of us, we will see that WE SEPARATED OURSELVES THROUGH THAT FEAR TO FEEL SAFE. 💔
If we can tune into this fear, we can hear what it’s saying—the safety programming or commands that are running through them: “I have to be afraid to feel safe.” “I have to feel this fear to separate myself (from them).” “I have to separate myself (from them) to feel safe.”
And this energy and mechanism in our bodies are processable with the Kiloby Inquiries (with the emotional repression inquiries). Once processed, we can feel the desired oneness and connectedness or wholeness we’ve been looking for in many ways, including spiritual awakening. (This term doesn’t make sense to me anymore.) 🙄
Because there isn’t any other separation than the sense of separation that was created between us and our parents. They meant the world to us as children, so of course, after burying this in our bodies deep, we experienced the world through that same separation.
There is no ‘ultimate separation’ or ‘ultimate oneness.’ That’s self-bamboozling and bypassing until we take the courage to process the painful stuff with mum and dad. We can choose if we want to continue seeking a magical enlightenment experience of oneness that unexpectedly takes away the sense and pain of separation (for a short term) OR we can go into the pain of separation we created through the fear and resolve it. ✊
It’s us who created it, and it’s only us who can reverse it…
…to then feel connected, whole, complete within ourselves, and love the beauty of this life, of existence. 💞
Our existence. 😉
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