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COMPASSIONATE DEPROGRAMMING VI. “Don’t Eat the Broccoli If You Don’t Like It!”

Unconscious programming to repress emotions is like a mother trying to get her child to like a certain food that is actually undesirable for her. The mother forces the ‘steamed broccoli’ into her child until she gradually believes that she likes it.

At first, it is almost painful for the child to swallow. She might even cry and throw tantrums. Then she slowly gets used to the taste, and so finally, she gradually believes that steamed broccoli is delicious. Then the painful, nagging, and violent process of getting used to the taste of steamed broccoli is slowly forgotten.

The child’s taste, system, and body would actually rather push broccoli out of her, but the mother’s clever programming makes her believe that it is good for her because otherwise, she can’t play on the computer, or the mother will be angry with her. So she will fall out of her favor. Or she is told that she has to eat healthy at least once a day so she doesn’t get sick, and so on…

So the child’s intelligent, natural, and intuitive realization that broccoli doesn’t resonate with her is perfectly fine, but because she doesn’t want to lose her mom, the computer game, or her health, she unconsciously convinces herself that she actually likes broccoli.

It’s the same with emotional repression. I suppress the feeling that was not allowed in the family environment and then unconsciously maintain this repression in order to continue to be accepted. If mom gets angry with me or turns away from me because I express my anger, I learn not to express it so that she continues to accept, love, and pay attention to me.

So, unconscious repression may seem to be for my own good, but in reality, I’m just giving up myself (and ‘my taste’) in an attempt to stay alive and adjust to something that was never natural to me.

Emotional repression is not natural. It’s an unconscious survival mechanism that can be reversed with the somatic inquiry of compassionate deprogramming.

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About Julianne:

For most of my life I’ve wondered who I am and why I am here. As I was growing up, no one else seemed to be talking about these things, or even thinking about them, so I buried it deep inside and tried my best to fit in the way I was “supposed” to, all the while feeling like there was something desperately wrong with me and that I needed to fix it.

In my early thirties, the death of a young relative left me feeling hopeless and helpless, wondering what is the point of life if we’re all just going to die anyway? This launched me on a search. I didn’t even know what I was looking for, I just knew that there was a longing – a desperate longing for something that actually made sense about life. I learned several alternative spiritual and healing techniques. I meditated. I read books and watched videos. I eventually learned of non-duality teachings, and I read more books, watched more videos, and even sat with several ‘awakened’ teachers. Yet I was still searching, something still felt missing. I was looking for the key that would unlock the mystery of me and of life.

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As a young child I saw a picture of Jesus gazing lovingly at some children around his feet. I immediately longed for the unconditional love I saw in his gaze. At the same time, I was being read fairy tales, like Cinderella, and came to believe that romantic love would satisfy that longing for love.

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I had learned to love and please others, but not how to love and respect myself. I was a “good girl,” and repressed my urges to have my own needs acknowledged and met. A wise teacher later told me, “We need to love everyone, including ourselves.” This was an amazing revelation for me!

Learning to meditate helped immensely to bring moments of peace, while I was sitting still, though I was still being triggered regularly in my relationships. Finally, the Kiloby Inquiries taught me how to turn my attention inside in daily life – towards the trapped thoughts and emotions I’d been running from – so that I could face and release them. It was like some tender, lost children began coming home, to take their rightful place in my inner world. 

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I am a non bypassing non-dual teacher with 13 years of direct experience. Waking up and abiding in our true nature was not enough. Some unconscious repressed fear was debilitating my expression for years. Stepping into the power of my voice fully was only possible with KI. In 2020 signing up to KI training with Scott and Dan changed the trajectory and the quality of my life and work. I released loads of repressed shame and anger from my system and now am able to let live manifest and express effortlessly. And I know you can live and be the fullest free expression of YOU!

 

I am so passionate about this method of deprograming & embodiment that I am here to inspire others to experience it for themselves. These tools and my perseverance in experimenting with them brought effortlessness, ease in the unknown, financial abundance, freedom of expression, burst of creativity and such a fulfilling work environment, where everyone is honoring integrity, authenticity and inner deepening. I’ve learned so much from all my fellow trainees and clients, it’s been such a privilege to hold space and witness their growth and transformation. I’ve been training in KI with Scott and on my own since 2021 and now so excited to train all dimensions training for full immersion in this work. 

 

I have experience working with: parents and children, childhood trauma, repression of voice/power/expression, non-dual bypassing, spiritual seeking, emotional repression, addiction, chronic pain, abuse, sexual abuse, sexual repression, depression, PTSD, birth trauma mother and baby, grief and loss, couples counseling, lack and scarcity mindset. 

 

I can help you move beyond suffering and fear into the world more fully with your gifts, authenticity and uniqueness recognizing your unbroken, true nature. 

 
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