Feelings Aren’t Terrible

If our direct environment was not open, inclusive and permissive in relation to our experience, the result was that our basic emotions got mixed up with external reactions to them, which we gradually internalized. We learned as children to be afraid of and bury or repress our feelings; it didn’t feel safe to show them. […]

COMPASSIONATE DEPROGRAMMING V. “Settling Down From Psychic Projection”

The nature of a repressed emotion is that on some level it becomes psychic (“mindy”). And then we project our repressed psychic fear, anger, hatred, lack, love, etc. onto others. It is because an emotion couldn’t be felt (i.e., couldn’t be processed) during a traumatic experience or relationship that it became a “missing experience.” When […]

COMPASSIONATE DEPROGRAMMING IV. “The Unreality and Unsafety of Victimhood”

It is as if, due to the lack and inability to express ourselves, we’ve become victims of the emotions we’ve been stuck with since childhood (i.e. helplessness, fear, separation, anger).  Over time, these stuck emotions become solid (yet unconscious) beliefs about ourselves. They give rise to our deficiency stories or core woundedness: “I am helpless,” […]

COMPASSIONATE DEPROGRAMMING II. “Active Presence During Somatic Inquiry”

The key to somatic self-inquiry is presence. And it is not just a passive, non-acting or witnessing presence that observes how feelings, thoughts, events, people and so on appear in the space of awareness. It is a very active presence! With somatic self-inquiry, we bring our presence into everything that hides/sleeps in the unconscious, or […]

COMPASSIONATE DEPROGRAMMING I. “Natural Recovery From Suffering”

Compassionate deprogramming is completely possible, as somatic self-inquiry becomes a natural part of our everyday life, our daily practice, our awareness, and a part of our functioning. This is important because our programming, or behavior, was formed repeatedly over a long time, as we were repeatedly triggered in certain relationships and situations. Because of this, […]

NMOR Explained

New Model of Recovery Explained New Model of Recovery Explained Playlist 16 Videos Part 1 of A New Model of Recovery Explained 15:04 Part 2 – The Iceberg 11:03 Part 3 – Hard drugs and alcohol 13:12 Part 4 – Environment 43:55 New Model as a Guide on your Path – February 28th, 2022. 21:28 […]

What happens after death?

People ask:  is there life after death?  Or does awareness exist beyond the mind and body, such that there’s no death? Those questions will only give you belief.  And belief is never absolute truth by definition.  Let’s look.  Me:  What do you get out of believing there is no death or there is life after […]

Do You Love Yourself?

I ask “do you love yourself?” People often say “no.” Some say “there is no self” and I say “yep, clearly seen, but do you love yourself?” There is usually no response or they  go back to “there’s no self.” My point is that all your life you’ve been turning away from really unconscious thoughts […]